16 February 2024

Episode 320: How To Become Bolder

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Hot Take· 1

Hot Take08:00

Why Text Slang Is Moving Into Real-Life Conversation

The hosts notice people saying terms such as “LOL” and “IRL” aloud rather than using them only online. Jennifer's explanation is that reduced face-to-face socialising has allowed familiar text vocabulary to migrate into spoken conversation, especially in online-first communities.

Some people now pronounce text abbreviations in spoken conversation
Online-first communities make digital shorthand feel natural offline
Communication habits can migrate from text into speech

“people have lost the ability to socialize in real time in real life so like they're just taking their normal text verbiage and now speaking…”
Jennifer Cohen · 08:00

“in the nft world it's very common because there's a lot of the online communities so when you do like an IRL event they literally…”
Jennifer Cohen · 08:30

#language#social-media#communication

Explainer· 1

Explainer09:30

The Difference Between Intentional and Unintentional Thirst Traps

Shawnee distinguishes a flattering post that others happen to label a thirst trap from content posted specifically to attract attention. Intent matters in her definition: the post may target a broad audience, a crush, or even one person through an inside joke only they will recognise.

A good-looking photo can be labelled a thirst trap without being intentional
An intentional thirst trap is designed to attract someone's attention
A public post can carry a private signal aimed at one person

“there's intentional and unintentional thirst straps”
Shawnee · 09:30

“to me a thirst trap is specifically something that you post in order to attract the attention of somebody”
Shawnee · 09:30

#social-media#attention#dating

Q&A· 1

Q&A06:00

Can You Be Bold Without Being Rude?

Jennifer separates assertive pursuit from rudeness and argues that boldness carries an unfairly negative connotation. Her practical distinction is delivery: a direct request can still be expressed with consideration, while criticism from others may reflect their own discomfort with acting boldly.

Asking deliberately for what you want is not inherently rude
Tone and delivery shape how an assertive request lands
Other people's discomfort does not automatically make a request inappropriate

“I don't think that necessarily being bold necessarily means being rude”
Jennifer Cohen · 06:30

“it's not what you say it's how you say it”
Jennifer Cohen · 07:00

#boldness#assertiveness#communication